At a certain point our lives don’t change much. We’re moving around on automatic pilot and don’t notice the sameness that has taken over our lives for many years. We’ve gotten used to very little occurring in our lives beyond our daily routine, and many people become comfortable with that, or just accept it. It's that "meh" feeling like we’re stuck in a rut.
More and more people are regaining control of their lives and changing their futures. They’re feeling better, being happier, getting healthier and spending more time and energy on what matters to them. Their outlook on life has improved dramatically. There's no reason that can't be you too!
The concept of wellness covers a broad range with different definitions depending on where you look. But for starters, let’s use the following: wellness is the belief that improvement is possible throughout our lives. We’re continuously seeking information on how we can improve. We’re choosing options and making decisions that support our best interests.
Everything we think, feel and believe impacts our whole being. You are in command of all aspects of your life: physical, career, relationships, finances, spiritual, environment, and emotional well-being, and so on. You can take charge of your life.
Try these simple ways to discover how you can start moving towards taking control of your life and wellness.
1. Place Value on Your Time “I don’t have the time,” is a common statement these days. Lack of time is a concern for nearly every person. Most people really want to be happier and healthier, but they feel they just don’t have free time to date, visit family, exercise, or any of the other things that make them happy. In reality, it's a choice we make. You are the master and creator of your own experience. When you make yourself a priority and decide to take control of your wellness, the first step is to regain ownership of your time. Examine how you spend your time on an average day. Write down your daily activities and realign your priorities. Once you make yourself a priority, you will be surprised how opportunities to include the things you really care about in your daily life will open up for you.
2. Reclaim Your Energy Are you always tired? Do you feel like there just isn't enough energy to meet the demands of your daily life? If you're like many people you may find that you are allowing other people to drain it, steal it and suck it away. To begin, examine the areas of your life that need more attention and focus. Set up some boundaries for yourself by declaring what you will and what you won't tolerate. If you're working 12 hours a day, maybe you could decide to work no more than nine hours. Really, it's about you taking back control and feeling good about your decisions. Once you decide to stop allowing others to decide what's best for you, you will experience revitalized energy.
3. Make Lasting Changes Our resistance to change can be a real challenge in making positive lasting changes in our lives. We often let our negative self talk get in the way, you know those voices in your head that says "you can't do this or that", "you don't deserve it", or any of those other horrible things that run through your mind. When we allow ourselves to believe the negative thoughts, we find excuses for why we don't move forward with starting that workout routine, eating healthier, or any number of positive changes we want to make in our lives.
But you can change that simply by becoming aware of those limiting beliefs that we fill our minds with. They simply aren't true, but you've allowed yourself to believe it is true. A belief is just a thought that we think over and over again. You have control over what you think and feel. If you really want positive, lasting change, the key is to focus your thoughts more on what you want, instead of the negative thoughts you have been allowing yourself to believe. It takes time to change your thoughts and focus, so be gentle with yourself and trust in the process. As you practice becoming aware of what you are thinking, and choosing a better thought, little by little you will begin to see that life is changing for the better everyday.
4. Set Boundaries What’s one of the shortest words yet so difficult for many people to say? If you guessed “No,” you’re right on the money. The first thing to do is to set some limits. You are not here on this earth to please others at your expense. Learning to say no to the things that you don’t want to do will reduce the stress of excessive demands on your time and energy. You can find a way to say no that is comfortable to you, yet respectful to the other person. Many people believe when someone makes a request of you, you must say yes. But, saying yes when you want or need to say no leads to you feeling bad and resentful.
Once you begin to take back control over what you agree to, it really can change your life for the better. It's always a choice to either overload your schedule or only accept requests to do something when you want to.
5. Be Good To Yourself Do you want to improve the quality of your life? Are you bored with your daily routine? Is your social life nonexistent? Guess what? You have to begin putting your needs first. That may sound selfish, but it isn't and here's why. You can't give what you don't have.
Decide what you want. If you don't know, then daydream a little. Use your imagination and visualize what living your best life looks and feels like. Schedule time on your calendar just for you, and then do whatever it is that feels good. Put together an action plan for re-inventing your life exactly how you want it, and then begin taking steps in that direction. And while your moving towards the new life you have envisioned, savor the deliciousness of the journey! Life is to be enjoyed. Lighten up, laugh, and have a good time while you are making your way towards your goals and dreams. That's living at it's best!
For those of you reading this article, I challenge you to take a few moments to assess how you’re feeling. How is your energy level? How much “me” time do you take on a daily basis? How is your overall self-care? Consider how much better you know you could be with some effort, commitment, and support. Now is the time to make time in your schedule for you.